Archive for June, 2010

A Shift from Chronic to Family Homelessness

Tuesday, June 29th, 2010

Although levels of homelessness are staying the same, family homelessness is on the rise.  I was reading an article at RealEstateRama last week that covered this year’s Annual Homeless Assessment Report (AHAR), recently released by the US Congress and prepared by the Department of Housing and Urban Development.  It announced that levels of homelessness have stayed essentially unchanged in the wake of the recession.   But, what really caught my attention was the explanation of how this could be.   It turns out that the number of families seeking shelter is still on the rise, but averaged out by a drop in chronic homelessness. While the overall trend is encouraging, this increase in family homelessness is something I believe may continue if the future economy remains just as unforgiving.

Families who were already vulnerable  before the recession are now even closer to falling into homelessness. In fact, as the report shows, rates of families “doubling up” (multiple families living in one residence) has increased by 8.5 percent. These precarious living situations cannot be maintained for long, and these families will need to be helped. Otherwise, next year’s report may reveal an even steeper increase in the number of families seeking shelter.

As our staff at Doorways prepare their end of year reports this week, I am sure it will be eye opening to see the number of families we have served and the number we could not support due to program capacity.  Stay tuned for our end of year statistics as our annual reporting comes to a close in July. 

~ Linda

Kids Creating Policy

Monday, June 28th, 2010

From the mouths of babes: “If the government has all this money, why don’t they just give some of it to poor people so that we don’t have poverty anymore?”  

A recent quote from a May 11th Washington Post article “Solutions to poverty are clear to kids, if those in charge would listen”.   An intriguing article about the Poverty Project, a program geared at educating those most at risk to experience and see homelessness in their communities ran by the organization Communities in Schools

Read the article and let us know what you think about what the kids have to say.

In Honor of Pride

Friday, June 25th, 2010

Project PEACE Awareness Campaign

To honor June, a time when many communities hold Gay Pride celebrations, we wanted to let you know about a few recent articles recognizing how intimate partner violence and homelessness impact LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) communities. 

The New York Times reports that VAWA, the Violence Against Women Act, extends protection to same-sex couples experiencing intimate partner violence regardless of gender. Read the article “Gay couples gain under the Violence Against Women Act” 

For individuals in same-sex relationships experiencing violence, and for their friends and family, there is a great new local resource!  Check out a new campaign and website, Show Me The Love, by fellow DC Metro advocates, WEAVE, Women Empowered Against Violence.  This site has great information for anyone in a violent relationship but speaks directly to the unique impact violence has on individuals in same-sex relationships.

The Advocate and Center for American Progress both released web-articles about how LGBT youth are impacted by homelessness.  Check out the Advocates Story that focuses on how a community came together to support homeless youth in New York “Hundreds Rally for LGBT Homeless Youth” and the Center for American Progress article that highlights the number of LGBT youth who are at risk or experiencing homelessness right now “Gay and Transgender Youth Homelessness by the Numbers”.

While riding my bike in Arlington…

Tuesday, June 22nd, 2010

As I was riding my bike home from work last beautiful Tuesday evening, I glanced down Glebe Road to see  a family strolling  hand in hand  spanning the sidewalk…. father, mother, and two small children, I was struck with such a heartwarming portrayal of family togetherness and peacefulness.  You don’t often see something like this on Arlington’s street.  So I marveled at the serene simplicity and the warmth of the moment.

Then, in a few seconds, their characteristics from behind suddenly took shape and form. This was a family who had not so long ago graduated from our Family Home.  I remembered the significant hardships they had struggled to overcome…each of them.   As with any family wrestling to overcome homelessness and keep a family together, the struggles were immense.  Yet, just this scene said to me…this is what Doorways does… it rebuilds families, strengthens the bonds among family members, and offers them a more vibrant life.   It was a picture reflecting many worthwhile deeds and actions… that made me proud of the organization. I need to ride my bike more often… and take in the scenery.

~ Linda

Is texting at the dinner table more dangerous then texting while you drive?

Monday, June 21st, 2010

Electronic Harassment Poster- The Red Flag Campaign

The right words at the right time and texting is great. Threatening words texted day and night are a red flag.  It may sound like a silly question to ask but after reading today’s article, Text messages become a growing weapon in dating violence, on the front page of the Washington Post Metro section it is a question that warrants discussion.  We have all seen the commercials and even Oprah’s campaign “No phone zone” to not text or use the cell phone while you drive and to talk to your teens about the risks involved.  But how often are parents talking to their teens about texting their dating or “hook-up” partners no matter where they are doing it from? 

Harassment and intimidation has always been one of the spokes on the power and control wheel of domestic and dating violence.  But the cell phone and electronic access to a dating partner is making harassment easier and allows violent relationships to escalate at an even faster rate. 

From the article: “It is all part of what is increasingly called “textual harassment,” a growing aspect of dating violence at a time when cell phones and unlimited texting plans are ubiquitous among the young. It can be insidious, because messages pop up at the sender’s will: Where r u? Who r u with? Why didn’t u answer me?

“It’s gotten astonishingly worse in the last two years,” says Jill Murray, who has written several books on dating violence and speaks on the topic nationally. Especially for those who have grown up in digital times, “it’s part and parcel of every abusive dating relationship now.”

The harassed often feel compelled to answer the messages, whether they are one-word insults or 3 a.m. demands. Texts arrive in class, at the dinner table, in movie theaters — 100 or more a day, for some.

Harassment is “just easier now, and it’s even more persistent and constant, with no letting up,” says Claire Kaplan, director of sexual and domestic violence services at the University of Virginia, which became the focus of national attention in May with the killing of 22-year-old lacrosse player Yeardley Love.”

Read the whole article and let us know how you would talk to your teen, nephew/niece, students, or grandchildren about textual harassment.

In honor of Father’s: A Father’s Day Reflection

Thursday, June 17th, 2010

Doorways Father's Day Card

Father’s Day is always a time when I reflect upon what I value most about my Dad and what I hope my children will value most in me.  First and foremost, my father always made me feel safe as a child.  In fact, there are still times today when he is able to reassure me in a way that nobody else can.  Perhaps this isn’t a novel concept, but certainly something I never took for granted.

Additionally, my father along with my mother taught me the duty that we all have to give back to our communities.  Now it is also my responsibility to share these lessons with my two young children so that they can get involved with some of the many important causes that need as many capable arms, legs and minds as they can possibly muster to help those less fortunate get through these extremely difficult times.

However, ever since joining the Board of Doorways in 2004, I now have another perspective on this holiday.  I think of the incredibly powerful stories I have heard from many of our clients—fathers and mothers who persevere against incredible odds to keep families together in the face of poverty and homelessness and emerge victorious in their struggle to get back to self-sufficiency.  Their stories not only motivate me to continue serving such a worthwhile cause, but inspire me to be a better father.

Happy Father’s Day to all of my fellow Dad’s.     

                                                                                    ~ Nicholas Evans, Doorways Board President

The Secrecy of Family Homelessness

Wednesday, June 16th, 2010

Photo courtesy of the NY Times Article.

A recent article in the NY Times, Keeping It Secret as the Family Car Becomes a Home, talks about one of the many ways families are impacted when they face homelessness.  In Arlington we often do not see homeless families on our streets but at Doorway we know their prevalence.  Last year alone we had 974 requests for shelter from 498 adults and 476 children that we could not meet because of the lack of space in our Family Home.  If a family turned away is fortunate enough to have a car, this may be a place that ends up becoming their home as they join the ranks of what the NY Times calls the “mobile homeless”.

But living like this is rarely an option for long. “The strain of constantly finding a place to wash up and the stress of avoiding detection became unbearable, Mr. Pyne said, adding, ‘You have no idea how exhausting it gets to survive like this.’”  Read the full article here.

What do you think of this dilemma that families face? Is its something you see here in Northern Virginia?

What Would You Do?

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

ABC News Picture "What would you do?"

We all try to put on our best faces when we are in public. But with abusers in relationships of domestic violence, the “Mr. Nice guy” act is often far from the actuality of what happens behind closed doors. Only the victim knows the truth, and she may simply be waiting for the abuse to continue again in private. Family and friends may never see the reality of the violence at all.

In a recent “What Would You Do?” video produced by ABC News, a situation of public abuse is staged in a restaurant. Under the eyes of hidden cameras, the reaction of a group of diners is recorded as they witness a scene of domestic violence. At first, the diners are aghast at the aggressive behavior of the abuser. Wouldn’t we all be? But these people soon overcome their shock and take action. Watch the video  to see the situation unfold and hear interviews from the diners about their reasons for acting how they did.

This video is so powerful because it challenges each of us to wonder: how would we react to an open display of domestic violence? What would be the consequences of our actions, for better or for worse? Impulsive intervention may not always benefit a victim, but there are many other ways of helping depending on the situation.

As I have already said in my editorial in the Washington Post  Breaking Free of Bystander Culture , opportunities to put a stop to domestic violence are often lost because a witness feels it is impolite or “not their place” to intervene. This is true even for friends and family who suspect that domestic violence may be present in a relationship of those they know. However, you do not have to physically step between an abuser and their victim to keep from being a bystander. Calling the police to report an incident of domestic violence or expressing concern to a victim if you know them personally are also ways to keep from “losing” the opportunity to confront domestic violence. By refusing to be a silent bystander, you can keep the doors from shutting on victims of domestic abuse, because the chilling question to ask is, what happens behind those doors if an abuser is bold enough to act violently in public?

~ Linda

In The News: A Local Story of Survival.

Monday, June 14th, 2010

Watch Jeanne's Story.

At Doorways we support women and families who have endured an amazing amount of trauma and we help them re-build their lives.  Today, we would like to highlight one woman’s story.  A woman we have known for many years at Doorways and who spoke out during a Channel 8 interview about the violent relationship she and her children survived.  

An excerpt from the interview.  “In 1995, I had 6 children by that time, it was mother’s day and my 13 year old tried to kill herself.  He blamed me for that and he beat me.  But for me, that was the boundary where I said this not about me anymore this is about my children.  When I realized how they were affected I had to leave.”

Watch and hear the rest of Jeanne’s Story from May, 17th by clicking here

While this may be the story of one woman, we hear similar ones everyday on the hotline and in our shelters.  Thank you Jeanne for sharing your story with the world.

What’s Up Next Week: Only 19 days to renew your commitment to helping families in crisis

Friday, June 11th, 2010

Woman and 2 DaughtersDoorways Annual Fund Renewal Appeal

Wednesday, June 30th

Help us meet our goal of raising $50,000 by June 30th to ensure life saving support services are available for women, children and families in crisis in Northern Virginia. 

Read more about why Doorways depends on your commitment.