Archive for May, 2011

Honored to Lead Doorways

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

Dear Friends,

I’m so excited to greet you as Doorways’ Executive Director.   I joined Doorways in 2003, and that is about the time that Doorways “joined me”.  My passion and compassion for the women and families we serve grows each day, and I remain inspired by the staff, volunteers, community supporters and most of all, our clients.  I have devoted my 20-year and counting career to family homelessness, domestic violence and child welfare and can’t imagine a better place to put my experience to work than at Doorways.

While it humbles and saddens me to see parents and children entering our programs in such crisis, witnessing their transformation to a place of hope and self-belief fulfills me beyond words.  I am so proud to live in a community like Arlington where we have a caring, responsive resource for women and families to turn to when they need it.  The wrap around, intensive services provided here at Doorways are the “game changer” for so many adults and children.  With these services, people rebuild.  They get the opportunities to learn and practice life skills that many of us take for granted.  Things like opening a bank account, managing our own finances, parenting our children without fear, experiencing joy as a family, and believing in oneself. (more…)

Children Should Know About Homelessness

Wednesday, May 25th, 2011

Here is my column from last month featured in the Arlington Connection:

Children Should Know About Homelessness

by Caroline Jones

Imagine every day asking a school bus driver to drop you off down the block so other kids don’t know you live in a shelter. Imagine wanting to try out for a school sports team, but knowing that any day you might have to move again. Imagine being afraid that your mother’s abusive partner will find out where you now go to school.

This is the reality for a growing number of children in the suburbs, including several thousand families in Northern Virginia. The Washington Council of Government’s recent Point in Time count of our region’s homeless revealed a devastating fact: Nearly one-third of those homeless are children.

This increasing number of homeless children struggle through their school day — unbeknownst to most of their school mates. (more…)

In the News: 5/23-5/27

Monday, May 23rd, 2011

Keller Williams is volunteering for Doorways, but the doorway struggles to stay open for the homeless.  Washington Post is taking on HUD while a father is reminding his son to be a real man.  While Arlington is approving more affordable housing development, parents can develop their kids’ understanding of abusive relationships.  And this is just some of what’s in the news . . .

Doorways Feature

Homelessness

Domestic Violence

Local


Thank you for being there

Friday, May 20th, 2011

For those of you who were able to join us last night at Lyon Hall for our Spring Benefit, we extend our sincerest thanks. Your presence and support of Doorways always humbles us.

Don’t forget that our online auction still has two more days left! Make sure to check out the items and place your bids.

A special thank you to Lyon Hall, The Liberty Tavern and Northside Social for their year-round support of Doorways. Also, thank you to Company Flowers for donating our beautiful floral arrangements last night.

We look forward to partnering with you in the future and continuing to support the women and families in our community.

Best wishes,

Lara Lukaszek

Special Events Coordinator

For the Benefit of Barbara

Monday, May 16th, 2011

Barbara sifted through all of her possessions.  She could only take certain items, and she had to be quick to ensure the safety of her children. She packed some clothing, grabbed personal identification documents, and made sure she had all of her important contact information.  This time she was leaving for good.  Just a few hours before, her husband had been arrested for assaulting her in front of their two children, Madison and Elijah.  It was time to choose safety.  If she didn’t act now, she thought that she may never have the chance.

After working with Doorways’ Safehouse staff to create a safety plan, Barbara arrived with her children at the Safehouse.  Barbara was able to quickly meet with the Doorways counselors to learn more about her situation and dedicate her time to creating a safer and healthier life for her and her children.  During her weekly meetings with a Doorways counselor, Barbara talked more and more about becoming a paralegal and began to prepare to take the LSAT within the year.

Working with the Doorways’ Financial Educator, Barbara created a budget and sustained the budget for two months.  Barbara understood the importance to commit to the budget and secure her finances.  She was quickly able to find independent housing and prepared to move out of the Safehouse.  Now, Barbara and her children continue to heal and rebuild their lives, receiving the support and benefits from many of Doorways’ programs.

We invite you to join us for Doorways’ Annual Spring Benefit on Wednesday, May 18th.  Please commit to give your support to Barbara and other mothers like her who greatly benefit from Doorways’ wraparound services.

There’s only a few days left to buy a ticket to the Benefit Auction for the Benefit of Barbara.

For the Benefit of Adele

Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

It took thirty years to push Adele to the breaking point.  Adele could finally see the end of her tumultuous, thirty-year marriage to Rodrigo and asked for a protective order against him.  She arrived at the Court House with Maria, her adult daughter.  After a long discourse, both Adele and Maria detailed the emotional and physical abuse, which had escalated to Adele leaving Rodrigo and moving in with Maria the week before.

Adele wanted to open up and share many of the details about the abuse, but she hesitated.  How could explain it all in front of her daughter?   Doorways’ Court Advocate was there to help her through this difficult process.  In private to the Advocate, Adele described the decades of abusive and controlling behavior.  Most recently, Rodrigo had become physically violent after Adele was late to pick him up from the airport.  That was the breaking point for her, and Adele moved in with Maria and her grandchildren.

Adele struggled to recount her abuse, but after sharing her story, the Court Advocate explained that she was eligible for a Preliminary Protective Order, described other legal actions, and dedicated her time to securing safety for Adele’s future.  After sharing her story, the Court granted Adele a Protective Order, and allowed her to look forward to a life of peace.  Adele has done well at a new job and is now living happily and safely, growing closer to her children and grandchildren every day.

Doorways’ Court Advocate made a commitment to Adele when she arrived at the Courthouse to provide her with guidance and help her to achieve the protection she deserved.  Please join us at Doorways’ Annual Spring Benefit to make your commitment and to offer your encouragement to the future strength of Doorways’ services and the safety of Adele and other women like her.

Benefit Adele by attending Doorways’ Spring Benefit.

For the Benefit of Brenda

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

Away from the abuse she and her children had endured, Brenda needed a job to support her transition to permanent housing.  After finding an apartment through Doorways’ HomeStart Program, she went to interview after interview.  Despite having marketable work experience and a good education, no job offers were coming her way.  Unfortunately, in addition to her resume Brenda would go into each interview with the haunting voice of her husband in her head.  Phrases like, “stupid,” “idiot,” and “no one in their right mind would ever hire you,” would constantly pulse through her mind.  As a result, each interview would end with Brenda breaking down or becoming agitated.

Fortunately, Brenda benefited from Doorways’ wraparound services. She received counseling and intensive job training to rebuild her self-esteem.  Brenda’s confidence grew so much that by the time of her graduation from our program, she led the entire graduation ceremony which was attended by hundreds of people.

Now, Brenda is the one giving.  She works in her community helping those facing similar challenges.  While the hateful words are not forgotten, Brenda has found new words to describe herself.  She is dedicated, self-sufficient and, most importantly, a proud mother of three children.

Benefit women like Brenda by coming to Doorways’ Spring Benefit.

In the News: 5/9 – 5/13

Monday, May 9th, 2011

Students are staying at school because they have no home to return to, while the economy continues to drive homelessness among minority communities.  The tragedy of Yeardley Love is inspiring a national campaign to call for violence prevention while some men survivors of domestic violence are having troubles calling for help.  And this is just some of what’s in the news . . .

Homelessness:

Domestic Violence

Doorways has a New Office

Tuesday, May 3rd, 2011

Doorways is proud to announce that our Administrative and HomeStart offices have found a new home.  You can now reach our Admin and HomeStart staff at (703) 504-9400.

For direct numbers for staff members at our new office and to see more pictures of our new office, click here!

As we move into our new home, we are encouraging you to support those who move into our shelters each year.  Help the women and families of our community move into our Freddie Mac Foundation Family Home and our Safehouse by donating an item off our Amazon Wish-List.

In the News: 5/2 – 5/6

Monday, May 2nd, 2011

Doorways has some tips to help you talk to your children about homelessness.  Reports of rape increased in Arlington County while the County tries to explain the number of homelessness in Arlington.  The District of Columbia is experiencing a budget shortfall in dealing with domestic violence while renters everywhere are paying a record amount to keep the roof over their head.  And this is just some of what’s in the news . . .

Doorways Feature

Local

Domestic Violence

Homelessness