It is clear that domestic abuse does not discriminate; it can affect anyone. There are some demographic groups however that seem to be neglected when it comes to recognizing the prevalence of domestic violence.
Society tends to focus on heterosexual domestic violence and seems not to recognize or chooses to ignore the fact that domestic violence exists among the LGBTQ community as well.
Statistically speaking, the rates of violence between heterosexual and homosexual couples are incredibly similar – one in four gay males and one in four straight females experiencing domestic violence – thus domestic violence among the LGBTQ community is something our society needs to look further in to. And though the numbers are similar, circumstances seem to be a bit more complex for LGBTQ victims experiencing domestic violence and searching for assistance.
Ultimately, there are two types of limitations that prevent LGBTQ individuals from seeking escape from their abusers – societal and legal limitations. The focus for this post will be on the societal limitations and we will further explore the legal limitations in a later post.
Though it feels as though our society has expanded its views on same-sex partners tremendously, many victims of LGBTQ domestic abuse do not want to ask for assistance for fear that they may only find discrimination and stigmatization. Even though, for the first time in history, the majority of citizens in the United States support gay marriage, there are still plenty of Americans whose views may limit ones ability to help those in need.
Many in our society believe that a man can stand up for himself when put up against another man and same for women, but that is just simply not the case. Just like in heterosexual relationships, psychological and emotional abuse play a large role in the abuser gaining power in the relationship. These forms of abuse make the victim feel nervous, isolated, and full of anxiety, which enable the abuser to take control. There are very unique forms of psychological abuse that are only found in LGBTQ relationships, as identified here.
Another interesting facet in LGBTQ relationships is the idea that the abuser cannot as easily be defined. In heterosexual relationships, it is most often the female who is the survivor of domestic abuse, however in LGBTQ relationships, the definition of the abuser or survivor is very faint, which make it more difficult for outside parties to recognize an abusive situation.
Overall, it seems as though society is just not used to the idea of LGBTQ domestic violence and some have a difficult time recognizing it as a problem let alone knowing how to help someone in need of assistance. However, by bringing attention to this, we know that it is up to us to change the norms in society and with acceptance and understanding we take the first steps toward helping those in need.
For further information on this topic, please look into these informational sites:
- National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
- Domestic Violence and the Gay Community: A Right to Peace and Safety
- Lesbian Partner Violence Fact Sheet
- LGBTQ Teens and Dating Abuse
Stay tuned for the legal and systematic limitations of seeking assistance from LGBTQ domestic violence.
Caroline Jones
