Posts Tagged ‘Domestic Violence’

Homelessness Makes Me Sick

Thursday, August 25th, 2011

It is only a few weeks before the children of Doorways go back to school. Thanks to our wonderful donors who supported our Back to School Campaign, the children will be equipped with backpacks full of college-ruled paper, three-ringed binders and an umbrella for good measure. However, even with the generosity of our community, the odds are still stacked against these children. They are far more likely to miss school because homelessness and abuse make them sick.

Children experiencing homelessness struggle to succeed in school if they are too sick to fully participate. These children are four times more likely to get sick than most middle-class kids. With a high rate of sick days, over 87% of homeless children are enrolled in school, but only 77% are able to attend regularly, according to the Department of Education.

For children experiencing domestic violence, learning at school may be the furthest thing from their minds. The effects of coming from a violent home can be traumatic and long-lasting. Meaningful relationships, be they with one’s teacher or classmates, may be difficult to form, and focusing on one’s classwork may seem inconsequential compared to the stress of returning home.

The experiences that the children of Doorways experience day in and day out are an opportunity for us to teach the community about the effects of homelessness and abuse on children. There are children in the classrooms every single day trying to find a way to break the cycle of homelessness or abuse they have been experiencing, but they cannot do it alone. Education is a great way to help break that cycle, but the solution will include all of us in the community educating ourselves. As our children go back to school in a few weeks, remind them that the person next to them in class may not be as fortunate as they are.

To support our Back to School Campaign, please, send messages along on Facebook or visit our campaign website here.

Perspective and statistics inspired by The Campaign to End Child Homelessness

In the News: August 15 – August 19

Monday, August 15th, 2011

Arlington County Public Schools are proposing a new sexual misconduct policy while Arlington takes on an initiative to fight 100 Homes for our most vulnerable.  Our area’s homeless are struggling to avoid the heat, while a new iPhone app teaches people what its like to struggle to avoid dating abuse.  And this is just some of what’s in the news . . .

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In the News: August 1st – August 5th

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

While Congress looks over legislation to cut aid for homeless, the Domestic Violence Task Force in Virginia urges Gov. McDonnell to better protect victims of dating and domestic violence. It’s reported that Hispanic families have suffered the most during the recession, and Arlington Partnership for Affordable Housing works to secure more affordable housing in Northern Virginia. And that’s just some of what’s in the news…

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Everyone, including LGBTQ couples, Deserves to Feel Safe

Tuesday, July 26th, 2011

It is clear that domestic abuse does not discriminate; it can affect anyone. There are some demographic groups however that seem to be neglected when it comes to recognizing the prevalence of domestic violence. Society tends to focus on heterosexual domestic violence and seems not to recognize or chooses to ignore the fact that domestic violence exists among the LGBTQ community as well.

Statistically speaking, the rates of violence between heterosexual and homosexual couples are incredibly similar – one in four gay males and one in four straight females experiencing domestic violence – thus domestic violence among the LGBTQ community is something our society needs to look further in to. And though the numbers are similar, circumstances seem to be a bit more complex for LGBTQ victims experiencing domestic violence and searching for assistance.

Ultimately, there are two types of limitations that prevent LGBTQ individuals from seeking escape from their abusers – societal and legal limitations. The focus for this post will be on the societal limitations and we will further explore the legal limitations in a later post.

Though it feels as though our society has expanded its views on same-sex partners tremendously, many victims of LGBTQ domestic abuse do not want to ask for assistance for fear that they may only find discrimination and stigmatization. Even though, for the first time in history, the majority of citizens in the United States support gay marriage, there are still plenty of Americans whose views may limit ones ability to help those in need.

Many in our society believe that a man can stand up for himself when put up against another man and same for women, but that is just simply not the case. Just like in heterosexual relationships, psychological and emotional abuse play a large role in the abuser gaining power in the relationship. These forms of abuse make the victim feel nervous, isolated, and full of anxiety, which enable the abuser to take control. There are very unique forms of psychological abuse that are only found in LGBTQ relationships, as identified here.

Another interesting facet in LGBTQ relationships is the idea that the abuser cannot as easily be defined. In heterosexual relationships, it is most often the female who is the survivor of domestic abuse, however in LGBTQ relationships, the definition of the abuser or survivor is very faint, which make it more difficult for outside parties to recognize an abusive situation.

Overall, it seems as though society is just not used to the idea of LGBTQ domestic violence and some have a difficult time recognizing it as a problem let alone knowing how to help someone in need of assistance. However, by bringing attention to this, we know that it is up to us to change the norms in society and with acceptance and understanding we take the first steps toward helping those in need.

For further information on this topic, please look into these informational sites:

Stay tuned for the legal and systematic limitations of seeking assistance from LGBTQ domestic violence.

In the News: July 25th – July 29th

Monday, July 25th, 2011

It is recommended that contraception and domestic violence screening should be included in health care plans, while the Department of Labor supplies guidelines for services benefiting female veterans who may become homeless. Family violence reports are increasing within the military community and one L.A. artist is raising homelessness awareness through his work. But that’s just some of what’s in the news…

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In the News: July 18th – July 22nd

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

Arlington schools are taking great lengths to ensure their non-English speaking students succeed in the classroom, while our homeless population in America seems to be getting left behind in our health care system. US Senators look over the Violence Against Women Act and low-income families may be pushed out of housing in Northern Virginia’s suburbs. And that’s just some of what’s in the news . . .

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In the News: July 11th – July 15th

Monday, July 11th, 2011

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  • Several hundred thousand Virginia youngsters may lose access to healthy meals during summers. The No Kid Hungry Campaign aims to end that.

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In the News: July 4th – July 8th

Tuesday, July 5th, 2011

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  • Caroline Jones: Finding my place in the non-profit world.
  • Fathers are important not just to play ball with their sons or teach their daughters how to whistle but to keep the family whole.

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  • Fairfax County reduces its overall homeless population by nearly 16 percent! Check out what The Washington Post has to say.

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New Law Expands Access to Protection and Condemns Abuse

Friday, July 1st, 2011

by Jamie Friedman, Court Advocacy Program Coordinator and Corinne Stuart, Court Advocacy Program Intern

After being attacked and beaten by her ex-boyfriend the night prior, Tina decided to seek legal protection from her ex-boyfriend to prevent him from hurting her again in the future. Sadly, Tina’s only remedy and legal recourse would be to call the police and have her partner arrested. But as we can all imagine, this is not always an ideal option. Under Virginia law, prior to July 1, 2011 Tina would not qualify to file for a Protective Order because her relationship did not meet Virginia’s definition of a “family or household member.”  Like many other survivors of dating violence, Tina would be turned away from the court system, still fearful as a result of her inability to access civil protection under the law.

Thankfully, as of July 1, 2011, recent legislation allows dating violence survivors, like Tina, to file for Protective Orders in General District Court.  Legislation has now changed to allow any person experiencing unwanted physical contact, including pushing, hitting, kicking or strangling, among other acts of violence, to file for civil protection in the General District Court, regardless of their relationship.  Additionally, any person receiving threats of unwanted physical contact will also be eligible to file in General District Court for a Protective Order.  This legislation is a much needed addition to the Civil Judicial System, particularly with the recent tragedy of Yeardley Love, a victim of dating violence, who was murdered in Charlottesville, Virginia by her boyfriend.

Not only does this new legislation expand access to civil protection for those in abusive dating relationships, but it also officially condemns abuse, in all situations, regardless of the relationship between the parties.  This is a large step in the right direction to ending all acts of violence and abuse in Virginia and on a national scale as well.

Doorways for Women and Families continues to serve all survivors of Intimate Partner Violence, offering resources to help survivors leave abusive partners and choose healthy relationships in moving forward. The Court Advocacy Program comprises one component of the support structure that Doorways provides for survivors of Intimate Partner Violence.  Court Advocates are available in the Arlington Courthouse to discuss eligibility for Protective Orders, complete Protective Order paperwork, provide court accompaniment, and offer safety planning and referrals to further community services.

Court Advocacy services are available by calling (703) 244-5165 or (571) 289-2439, or by walking in and speaking with a Court Advocate in the Juvenile and Domestic Relations Intake Office located on the fourth floor in the Arlington Courthouse.

Finally! Protection for the Previously Unprotected

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

Law to allow increase eligibility for dating partners to get protective orders to go into effect July 1st!

Finally, on July 1st, after too long a wait, survivors of dating violence will have the law on their side.  Starting Friday, July 1st, those experiencing dating abuse will be eligible for Protective Orders.

Dating violence has been a wide concern among Virginians in recent years with the publicized murders of both Linda Bostwick and Yeardly Love. The current legal system only protects select individuals from abusive partners, leaving many unprotected. In just a few days however, protection will be expanded to include those who want to file claims against boyfriends, girlfriends, neighbors, and even co-workers.

There is a lot to learn about this new change and a lot of good that can come out of it for the state of Virginia. Keep a look out for our coming posts surrounding the new legislation, how this all came about, what the national scope of it is, and how Doorways is here for support.

In the mean time, be sure to catch up on some of past comment on this law.  Read our reaction to when the law was first passed.  Also, read about the origins of this much needed law.