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Should I Just Go Back?

Thursday, October 13th, 2011

“Should I just go back?”

Rita came to Doorways looking for safety.  After coming to the conclusion that she needed to leave her abusive situation, Rita had to endure many challenges, including the risk of homelessness.  The financial abuse she suffered prevented her from both meaningful employment and the skills needed to manage her money.  Without anywhere left to turn, she bravely called Doorways and found a bed at our Safehouse.

Unfortunately, coming into our domestic violence shelter was only the first step in Rita’s pursuit to safety.  Rita’s journey will not be over until she can find long-term, stable housing.  While she has found temporary security in a shelter, affordable housing is the only cure to the cycle of abuse and homelessness that Rita seeks to end.  And in her struggle to find an affordable home, Rita was left to ponder, “Should I just go back?”  This is the part of the story often left untold.

Once women and families come into our shelters, our job is not finished until they can secure safe and stable housing.  That is getting harder to do in these economic times.  Last year, our Safehouse served a decreasing number of people – 20 households compared to 41 households the year before.  Difficulty in finding affordable and safe housing has caused longer stays in our shelters.  We have tried to address the issue by increasing our capacity to serve families in long-term housing – 85 households last year compared to 54 households the year before.  But, the issue remains.

What is it going to take, as a community, to help people get beyond harm’s way?  That is a question we need to ask of ourselves, our neighbors, and our community leaders.  During Domestic Violence Awareness Month, write a letter to the editor and talk to a neighbor about striving to end the cycle of abuse and homelessness that affects community members like Rita.

Join us for an awareness event as part of Domestic Violence Awareness Month

In the News: September 19 – 23

Monday, September 19th, 2011

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Homelessness Makes Me Sick

Thursday, August 25th, 2011

It is only a few weeks before the children of Doorways go back to school. Thanks to our wonderful donors who supported our Back to School Campaign, the children will be equipped with backpacks full of college-ruled paper, three-ringed binders and an umbrella for good measure. However, even with the generosity of our community, the odds are still stacked against these children. They are far more likely to miss school because homelessness and abuse make them sick.

Children experiencing homelessness struggle to succeed in school if they are too sick to fully participate. These children are four times more likely to get sick than most middle-class kids. With a high rate of sick days, over 87% of homeless children are enrolled in school, but only 77% are able to attend regularly, according to the Department of Education.

For children experiencing domestic violence, learning at school may be the furthest thing from their minds. The effects of coming from a violent home can be traumatic and long-lasting. Meaningful relationships, be they with one’s teacher or classmates, may be difficult to form, and focusing on one’s classwork may seem inconsequential compared to the stress of returning home.

The experiences that the children of Doorways experience day in and day out are an opportunity for us to teach the community about the effects of homelessness and abuse on children. There are children in the classrooms every single day trying to find a way to break the cycle of homelessness or abuse they have been experiencing, but they cannot do it alone. Education is a great way to help break that cycle, but the solution will include all of us in the community educating ourselves. As our children go back to school in a few weeks, remind them that the person next to them in class may not be as fortunate as they are.

To support our Back to School Campaign, please, send messages along on Facebook or visit our campaign website here.

Perspective and statistics inspired by The Campaign to End Child Homelessness

In the News: August 15 – August 19

Monday, August 15th, 2011

Arlington County Public Schools are proposing a new sexual misconduct policy while Arlington takes on an initiative to fight 100 Homes for our most vulnerable.  Our area’s homeless are struggling to avoid the heat, while a new iPhone app teaches people what its like to struggle to avoid dating abuse.  And this is just some of what’s in the news . . .

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In the News: July 25th – July 29th

Monday, July 25th, 2011

It is recommended that contraception and domestic violence screening should be included in health care plans, while the Department of Labor supplies guidelines for services benefiting female veterans who may become homeless. Family violence reports are increasing within the military community and one L.A. artist is raising homelessness awareness through his work. But that’s just some of what’s in the news…

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In the News: July 11th – July 15th

Monday, July 11th, 2011

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  • Several hundred thousand Virginia youngsters may lose access to healthy meals during summers. The No Kid Hungry Campaign aims to end that.

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A July 4th Celebration at the Safehouse

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

By Tani T. Lublin

It was a perfect evening; nothing went according to my plan.

The children's playroom in the Safehouse.

When I arrived at the Safehouse (with my bag full of tricks), I hinted that we would be having a backyard parade and a 4th of July birthday celebration.  The two sisters were excited about having a party and immediately began pulling the streamers and ribbons and star garlands out of my bag and set about decorating the living room and dining table with red, white & blue placemats, and hand-made “Happy 4thof July” banners.  The two girls decorated the party hats with curly red ribbon and wanted to create a “surprise” atmosphere for when the other four children arrived.   Once everyone arrived we all piled outside to play.  One girl handed out American flags to everyone along with a ribbon tied Declaration of Independence scroll.  We all decorated the back yard with blue crepe paper in the chain fence, tied paper streamers around the tree and its branches, wrapped the stair railings and one child decorated the sum of the patio furniture, while others wrapped scooters and bikes.  It was non-stop activity.   While I had hoped to talk about the 4th of July, a bit of history, and actually have a parade – the plan evaporated.  I was totally in their moment.

Time for cupcakes!  I asked one of the children if she would pass out cupcakes to everyone.  Even a couple of the Moms joined in sharing the fun with their kids.  One girl ended up with frosting all over her sweet face. The special moments of life are usually not the ones you expect them to be; they just happen all by themselves.  In that twilight space, as the sun bowed and well before the first star appeared in the night sky, the children spotted fireflies – the first of the summer.  Some of the children had never seen a firefly and, of course, we were all enchanted.  I told them they were special insects and magical little creatures to be treated gently.  For about 20-30 minutes, as the group ran and searched for and caught fireflies, I was witness to excitement and discovery, the sound of children’s laughter and chirping crickets, and the soft glow of an early summer night.  Perfect.

In the News: 6/20 – 6/24

Monday, June 20th, 2011

Some success stories and awards in our area are coupled with the reported rise in nation-wide family homelessness.  White-collar adults are still finding themselves homeless while schoolyard bullies may find themselves to be abusive adults.  And that’s just some of what’s in the news . . .

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Doorways Staffer Featured at International Conference

Tuesday, June 7th, 2011

We are so pleased to announce that our Child Mental Health Specialist, Diana Ortiz, M.Ed, will have her work on display at the Congress of the Inter-American Society of Psychology’s latest conference.  The conference will focus on “For the People’s Health:  A Psychology Engaged with Social Transformation.”

Diana’s work is titled:
Unheard Voice of Children Exposed to Domestic Violence: Mental Health Needs, Prevalence, and Interventions

And Here is Diana, in her own words, about the conference and opportunity:

“I am really pleased about this opportunity. I am proud to be part of Doorways, and I am thrilled to share with an international community some of our goals, challenges, and what we have been implementing as effective mental health practices for children and youth and their families affected by domestic violence.

As the only child mental health specialist in our agency, I have worked part-time for our three programs for about two years [DV shelter (Safehouse), Family Home, and Home start]. Every time I start working with a new family, new stories fill my notebook and the willingness to be part of their healing process keeps me motivated to find what may be the best approach for each particular family. As an integrative therapist, I used many play-based therapy techniques, culturally responsive approaches, and family interventions. I firmly believe in being flexible and establishing a strong and trusting relationship with the child and the family, and through that relationship, facilitate healing and change. Being flexible means being able to think outside of the box, not only about what approach to take, but thinking about the time, the space, and find their own pace.

Children fill out my heart with their resilience, their tenacity, capacity to love, forgive, and create new opportunities. Providing them a safe space where they are allowed to feel the way they feel, a non-judgmental place where they can cry and laugh, be silly and express their deepest fears, be children again, and seemed to be a key part of the process. Parents and caregivers are also an important piece of this puzzle, and providing a space where they can appreciate their courage, love for their children, and ability to repair their broken pieces of their family, is what we can do to honor them. I could not be happier to be part of a team where we all work in synchrony to provide families the best resources, our professional integrity, and a helping hand.”

Diana Ortiz, M.Ed

Child Mental Heath Specialist

In the News: 6/6 – 6/13

Monday, June 6th, 2011

Doorways is participating at national conferences on financial literacy while welcoming Caroline Jones as our new director.  Meanwhile, Arlington continues to feature amazing non-profits including ASPAN and AHC.  And that is just some of what’s in the news . . .

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