Posts Tagged ‘Doorways’

A July 4th Celebration at the Safehouse

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

By Tani T. Lublin

It was a perfect evening; nothing went according to my plan.

The children's playroom in the Safehouse.

When I arrived at the Safehouse (with my bag full of tricks), I hinted that we would be having a backyard parade and a 4th of July birthday celebration.  The two sisters were excited about having a party and immediately began pulling the streamers and ribbons and star garlands out of my bag and set about decorating the living room and dining table with red, white & blue placemats, and hand-made “Happy 4thof July” banners.  The two girls decorated the party hats with curly red ribbon and wanted to create a “surprise” atmosphere for when the other four children arrived.   Once everyone arrived we all piled outside to play.  One girl handed out American flags to everyone along with a ribbon tied Declaration of Independence scroll.  We all decorated the back yard with blue crepe paper in the chain fence, tied paper streamers around the tree and its branches, wrapped the stair railings and one child decorated the sum of the patio furniture, while others wrapped scooters and bikes.  It was non-stop activity.   While I had hoped to talk about the 4th of July, a bit of history, and actually have a parade – the plan evaporated.  I was totally in their moment.

Time for cupcakes!  I asked one of the children if she would pass out cupcakes to everyone.  Even a couple of the Moms joined in sharing the fun with their kids.  One girl ended up with frosting all over her sweet face. The special moments of life are usually not the ones you expect them to be; they just happen all by themselves.  In that twilight space, as the sun bowed and well before the first star appeared in the night sky, the children spotted fireflies – the first of the summer.  Some of the children had never seen a firefly and, of course, we were all enchanted.  I told them they were special insects and magical little creatures to be treated gently.  For about 20-30 minutes, as the group ran and searched for and caught fireflies, I was witness to excitement and discovery, the sound of children’s laughter and chirping crickets, and the soft glow of an early summer night.  Perfect.

In the News: 6/20 – 6/24

Monday, June 20th, 2011

Some success stories and awards in our area are coupled with the reported rise in nation-wide family homelessness.  White-collar adults are still finding themselves homeless while schoolyard bullies may find themselves to be abusive adults.  And that’s just some of what’s in the news . . .

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Doorways Staffer Featured at International Conference

Tuesday, June 7th, 2011

We are so pleased to announce that our Child Mental Health Specialist, Diana Ortiz, M.Ed, will have her work on display at the Congress of the Inter-American Society of Psychology’s latest conference.  The conference will focus on “For the People’s Health:  A Psychology Engaged with Social Transformation.”

Diana’s work is titled:
Unheard Voice of Children Exposed to Domestic Violence: Mental Health Needs, Prevalence, and Interventions

And Here is Diana, in her own words, about the conference and opportunity:

“I am really pleased about this opportunity. I am proud to be part of Doorways, and I am thrilled to share with an international community some of our goals, challenges, and what we have been implementing as effective mental health practices for children and youth and their families affected by domestic violence.

As the only child mental health specialist in our agency, I have worked part-time for our three programs for about two years [DV shelter (Safehouse), Family Home, and Home start]. Every time I start working with a new family, new stories fill my notebook and the willingness to be part of their healing process keeps me motivated to find what may be the best approach for each particular family. As an integrative therapist, I used many play-based therapy techniques, culturally responsive approaches, and family interventions. I firmly believe in being flexible and establishing a strong and trusting relationship with the child and the family, and through that relationship, facilitate healing and change. Being flexible means being able to think outside of the box, not only about what approach to take, but thinking about the time, the space, and find their own pace.

Children fill out my heart with their resilience, their tenacity, capacity to love, forgive, and create new opportunities. Providing them a safe space where they are allowed to feel the way they feel, a non-judgmental place where they can cry and laugh, be silly and express their deepest fears, be children again, and seemed to be a key part of the process. Parents and caregivers are also an important piece of this puzzle, and providing a space where they can appreciate their courage, love for their children, and ability to repair their broken pieces of their family, is what we can do to honor them. I could not be happier to be part of a team where we all work in synchrony to provide families the best resources, our professional integrity, and a helping hand.”

Diana Ortiz, M.Ed

Child Mental Heath Specialist

In the News: 6/6 – 6/13

Monday, June 6th, 2011

Doorways is participating at national conferences on financial literacy while welcoming Caroline Jones as our new director.  Meanwhile, Arlington continues to feature amazing non-profits including ASPAN and AHC.  And that is just some of what’s in the news . . .

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Honored to Lead Doorways

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

Dear Friends,

I’m so excited to greet you as Doorways’ Executive Director.   I joined Doorways in 2003, and that is about the time that Doorways “joined me”.  My passion and compassion for the women and families we serve grows each day, and I remain inspired by the staff, volunteers, community supporters and most of all, our clients.  I have devoted my 20-year and counting career to family homelessness, domestic violence and child welfare and can’t imagine a better place to put my experience to work than at Doorways.

While it humbles and saddens me to see parents and children entering our programs in such crisis, witnessing their transformation to a place of hope and self-belief fulfills me beyond words.  I am so proud to live in a community like Arlington where we have a caring, responsive resource for women and families to turn to when they need it.  The wrap around, intensive services provided here at Doorways are the “game changer” for so many adults and children.  With these services, people rebuild.  They get the opportunities to learn and practice life skills that many of us take for granted.  Things like opening a bank account, managing our own finances, parenting our children without fear, experiencing joy as a family, and believing in oneself. (more…)

In the News: 5/23-5/27

Monday, May 23rd, 2011

Keller Williams is volunteering for Doorways, but the doorway struggles to stay open for the homeless.  Washington Post is taking on HUD while a father is reminding his son to be a real man.  While Arlington is approving more affordable housing development, parents can develop their kids’ understanding of abusive relationships.  And this is just some of what’s in the news . . .

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Homelessness

Domestic Violence

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For the Benefit of Barbara

Monday, May 16th, 2011

Barbara sifted through all of her possessions.  She could only take certain items, and she had to be quick to ensure the safety of her children. She packed some clothing, grabbed personal identification documents, and made sure she had all of her important contact information.  This time she was leaving for good.  Just a few hours before, her husband had been arrested for assaulting her in front of their two children, Madison and Elijah.  It was time to choose safety.  If she didn’t act now, she thought that she may never have the chance.

After working with Doorways’ Safehouse staff to create a safety plan, Barbara arrived with her children at the Safehouse.  Barbara was able to quickly meet with the Doorways counselors to learn more about her situation and dedicate her time to creating a safer and healthier life for her and her children.  During her weekly meetings with a Doorways counselor, Barbara talked more and more about becoming a paralegal and began to prepare to take the LSAT within the year.

Working with the Doorways’ Financial Educator, Barbara created a budget and sustained the budget for two months.  Barbara understood the importance to commit to the budget and secure her finances.  She was quickly able to find independent housing and prepared to move out of the Safehouse.  Now, Barbara and her children continue to heal and rebuild their lives, receiving the support and benefits from many of Doorways’ programs.

We invite you to join us for Doorways’ Annual Spring Benefit on Wednesday, May 18th.  Please commit to give your support to Barbara and other mothers like her who greatly benefit from Doorways’ wraparound services.

There’s only a few days left to buy a ticket to the Benefit Auction for the Benefit of Barbara.

For the Benefit of Adele

Wednesday, May 11th, 2011

It took thirty years to push Adele to the breaking point.  Adele could finally see the end of her tumultuous, thirty-year marriage to Rodrigo and asked for a protective order against him.  She arrived at the Court House with Maria, her adult daughter.  After a long discourse, both Adele and Maria detailed the emotional and physical abuse, which had escalated to Adele leaving Rodrigo and moving in with Maria the week before.

Adele wanted to open up and share many of the details about the abuse, but she hesitated.  How could explain it all in front of her daughter?   Doorways’ Court Advocate was there to help her through this difficult process.  In private to the Advocate, Adele described the decades of abusive and controlling behavior.  Most recently, Rodrigo had become physically violent after Adele was late to pick him up from the airport.  That was the breaking point for her, and Adele moved in with Maria and her grandchildren.

Adele struggled to recount her abuse, but after sharing her story, the Court Advocate explained that she was eligible for a Preliminary Protective Order, described other legal actions, and dedicated her time to securing safety for Adele’s future.  After sharing her story, the Court granted Adele a Protective Order, and allowed her to look forward to a life of peace.  Adele has done well at a new job and is now living happily and safely, growing closer to her children and grandchildren every day.

Doorways’ Court Advocate made a commitment to Adele when she arrived at the Courthouse to provide her with guidance and help her to achieve the protection she deserved.  Please join us at Doorways’ Annual Spring Benefit to make your commitment and to offer your encouragement to the future strength of Doorways’ services and the safety of Adele and other women like her.

Benefit Adele by attending Doorways’ Spring Benefit.

For the Benefit of Brenda

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

Away from the abuse she and her children had endured, Brenda needed a job to support her transition to permanent housing.  After finding an apartment through Doorways’ HomeStart Program, she went to interview after interview.  Despite having marketable work experience and a good education, no job offers were coming her way.  Unfortunately, in addition to her resume Brenda would go into each interview with the haunting voice of her husband in her head.  Phrases like, “stupid,” “idiot,” and “no one in their right mind would ever hire you,” would constantly pulse through her mind.  As a result, each interview would end with Brenda breaking down or becoming agitated.

Fortunately, Brenda benefited from Doorways’ wraparound services. She received counseling and intensive job training to rebuild her self-esteem.  Brenda’s confidence grew so much that by the time of her graduation from our program, she led the entire graduation ceremony which was attended by hundreds of people.

Now, Brenda is the one giving.  She works in her community helping those facing similar challenges.  While the hateful words are not forgotten, Brenda has found new words to describe herself.  She is dedicated, self-sufficient and, most importantly, a proud mother of three children.

Benefit women like Brenda by coming to Doorways’ Spring Benefit.

Doorways has a New Office

Tuesday, May 3rd, 2011

Doorways is proud to announce that our Administrative and HomeStart offices have found a new home.  You can now reach our Admin and HomeStart staff at (703) 504-9400.

For direct numbers for staff members at our new office and to see more pictures of our new office, click here!

As we move into our new home, we are encouraging you to support those who move into our shelters each year.  Help the women and families of our community move into our Freddie Mac Foundation Family Home and our Safehouse by donating an item off our Amazon Wish-List.