Posts Tagged ‘Intervention’

No Better Reason to Wake Up at 3am

Thursday, November 3rd, 2011

There is not enough coffee in the world to make me a pleasant person at 3 am.  Yet, on Monday, October 17, I was filled with excitement as I walked into Arlington County’s Department of Human Services building at 3am.  What could possibly drag me out of a peaceful slumber at this ungodly hour?

I wanted to end homelessness in Arlington.

The 100 Homes Campaign is an initiative of the 10-Year Plan to End Homelessness in Arlington, a county-wide effort to coordinate services and leverage community support to give everyone a safe and secure home in our county.  Doorways for Women and Families is a partner in the 10 Year Plan, helping provide a voice for the countless families experiencing homelessness in our community.  The goal for the week of October 17 was to identify the most vulnerable individuals on our streets and in our shelters, so that we could rapidly get them into housing.  The goal for the 100 Homes campaign is to get 100 vulnerable Arlingtonians into 100 homes by July 2013.  A tall order, but luckily we started early in the morning.

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Doorways Staffer Featured at International Conference

Tuesday, June 7th, 2011

We are so pleased to announce that our Child Mental Health Specialist, Diana Ortiz, M.Ed, will have her work on display at the Congress of the Inter-American Society of Psychology’s latest conference.  The conference will focus on “For the People’s Health:  A Psychology Engaged with Social Transformation.”

Diana’s work is titled:
Unheard Voice of Children Exposed to Domestic Violence: Mental Health Needs, Prevalence, and Interventions

And Here is Diana, in her own words, about the conference and opportunity:

“I am really pleased about this opportunity. I am proud to be part of Doorways, and I am thrilled to share with an international community some of our goals, challenges, and what we have been implementing as effective mental health practices for children and youth and their families affected by domestic violence.

As the only child mental health specialist in our agency, I have worked part-time for our three programs for about two years [DV shelter (Safehouse), Family Home, and Home start]. Every time I start working with a new family, new stories fill my notebook and the willingness to be part of their healing process keeps me motivated to find what may be the best approach for each particular family. As an integrative therapist, I used many play-based therapy techniques, culturally responsive approaches, and family interventions. I firmly believe in being flexible and establishing a strong and trusting relationship with the child and the family, and through that relationship, facilitate healing and change. Being flexible means being able to think outside of the box, not only about what approach to take, but thinking about the time, the space, and find their own pace.

Children fill out my heart with their resilience, their tenacity, capacity to love, forgive, and create new opportunities. Providing them a safe space where they are allowed to feel the way they feel, a non-judgmental place where they can cry and laugh, be silly and express their deepest fears, be children again, and seemed to be a key part of the process. Parents and caregivers are also an important piece of this puzzle, and providing a space where they can appreciate their courage, love for their children, and ability to repair their broken pieces of their family, is what we can do to honor them. I could not be happier to be part of a team where we all work in synchrony to provide families the best resources, our professional integrity, and a helping hand.”

Diana Ortiz, M.Ed

Child Mental Heath Specialist

Behind closed doors or not, we should be outraged

Tuesday, October 12th, 2010

Warning this video is a graphic depiction of violence and is not recommended for young children.

Wow.  I just watched this riveting, jarring and scary public service announcement for domestic violence awareness from our neighbors in Canada.   It left me haunted that this scenario, behind closed doors, is not far off in the intensity and cruelty that we encounter in the stories of survivors of intimate partner violence.  What is particularly disturbing is the presence of the children; also too common in occurrences of family violence.  In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, please watch and pass on to people you know in honor of the real victims who this portrayal is aiming to serve and protect.

~Linda

Virginia Receives an “F” on Protective Teen Dating Violence Policies

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

Volunteers Learning the Protective Order Process at Training.

I received a new fact sheet from Break the Cycle, a national dating violence awareness organization, detailing the state of Virginia’s dating violence policies.  The fact sheet, or report card, gave the State of Virginia a rating of “F” because of the lack of legislation that protects teens in violent and lethal relationships.  I asked our Court Advocacy Program Coordinator, Jamie Friedman, what she thought about the rating and the current state policies as they relate to legal protections for teens in unhealthy and violent dating relationships.

“Good question Linda.  This is an interesting and informative piece, but frankly, it is no surprise to me that VA received the lowest rating.  There is certainly a huge gap in VA compared to other jurisdictions.  As the report found, people who are dating have limited legal protection unless a couple has a child in common or they live together. If they don’t meet one of these two requirements, then there is no civil recourse for them. The only option left is going the criminal route. However, sadly and ironically, this is often not the safest option for someone in a violent and lethal relationship.  Why?

Because, if they do decide to press criminal charges,  the burden of proof to get warrants for an assault or stalking in a General District Court is very high, and often hard to prove, as VA code requires direct physical harm, explicit verbal threats, and even a specific “number of incidents” to warrant an arrest. It seems to me that our legislators are continuing to uphold laws that only ensure legal action once something truly harmful has happened to the survivor.  

VA has taken some steps, but we have a lot of changes to make to ensure we are opening the doors for legal protections for all types of relationships.  It is concerning to me that we are not moving forward with the times.  In this day and age, couples are waiting longer and longer to move in together, get married, and have children.  This makes the likelihood there will continue to be more and more people in abusive dating relationships being prohibited from seeking protection because they do not meet these strict relationship requirements or cannot demonstrate the steep “burden of proof.” This is particularly true of young and teen dating relationships.”

Interesting perspective from our Court Advocacy Program Coordinator.  What do you think as a community we can do to provide options for youth and dating couples in our community?

~Linda

What Would You Do?

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

ABC News Picture "What would you do?"

We all try to put on our best faces when we are in public. But with abusers in relationships of domestic violence, the “Mr. Nice guy” act is often far from the actuality of what happens behind closed doors. Only the victim knows the truth, and she may simply be waiting for the abuse to continue again in private. Family and friends may never see the reality of the violence at all.

In a recent “What Would You Do?” video produced by ABC News, a situation of public abuse is staged in a restaurant. Under the eyes of hidden cameras, the reaction of a group of diners is recorded as they witness a scene of domestic violence. At first, the diners are aghast at the aggressive behavior of the abuser. Wouldn’t we all be? But these people soon overcome their shock and take action. Watch the video  to see the situation unfold and hear interviews from the diners about their reasons for acting how they did.

This video is so powerful because it challenges each of us to wonder: how would we react to an open display of domestic violence? What would be the consequences of our actions, for better or for worse? Impulsive intervention may not always benefit a victim, but there are many other ways of helping depending on the situation.

As I have already said in my editorial in the Washington Post  Breaking Free of Bystander Culture , opportunities to put a stop to domestic violence are often lost because a witness feels it is impolite or “not their place” to intervene. This is true even for friends and family who suspect that domestic violence may be present in a relationship of those they know. However, you do not have to physically step between an abuser and their victim to keep from being a bystander. Calling the police to report an incident of domestic violence or expressing concern to a victim if you know them personally are also ways to keep from “losing” the opportunity to confront domestic violence. By refusing to be a silent bystander, you can keep the doors from shutting on victims of domestic abuse, because the chilling question to ask is, what happens behind those doors if an abuser is bold enough to act violently in public?

~ Linda